A Matter of Time

It is cliché to say that “time heals all wounds”, but until you have experienced hurt one may not fully understand its meaning. I started blogging six years ago to express my feelings of love, joy, peace, and grief as my method of healing. Often we find ourselves trying to cope with life by using different avenues to heal our brokenness. In the beginning, words started to flow, I would write and get the feeling that I was doing better than I could ever imagine in my current circumstance. Like physical wounds, there are levels to get to complete healing. Even when we heal, a scar usually remains to remind us of the lesson and journey.

Mama was a wise and extremely witty woman. She told me that the answer to all things is time. In time if there was a lie, the truth will reveal itself; if there is sorrow, in time joy will appear. Where there are questions, time will answer, and when you feel like you’ve lost your way, in time you’ll find yourself in the place God has for you. However, she also warned me that time waits for no one, so keep moving. As I played the hand that life dealt me, I found that time did not have a ruler to ensure that my healings were equally measured. There were times when I could move past an obstacle swiftly, but there were also times that knocked me to my knees and I had to stay there a little longer to build the strength to stand.

Time has taught me several things. During my lowest times, I found true friendship. When at the most critical point of your life a true friend will understand that your absence or difference is not personal, but needed to adjust to your new normal. I had to come to the realization that I will never be the same and a friend will “get it” as they adjust as well. Time has also taught me the importance of family. Family is not a circle of perfection but in time, the circle becomes smaller so we must cherish each other while we have the opportunity. Time passes by. Time heals. Time mends. Time hurts. Time can make minutes feel like days. Time flies, however, time never erases beautiful memories. Use your time wisely and don’t allow anyone to tell you how much time it takes for your growth or healing.